Question regarding modification of Conch theme.

Hi,

I have talked to you on drupal forum, and you have asked me to post here.

I would like to modify your theme so it would look similarly to the one I have on my site. www.ba-xian.co.cc.

The reason I would like to do it, is:
It was originally designed for joomla or wordpress, then someone ported it to drupal 5.x and I have ported it to drupal 6.x. The whole design is very buggy is visitor non friendly. Meaning you users don't have the option to change their configuration. When a post is made, who knows who made it or when it was posted, and it someone wants to modify it, you cant unless you are an admin. In other words its extremely buggy.

What I would like to do:

Since the design and layout are very similar, I would like just to change few borders and few images.

If you look at my site, you would see a right black border with what looks like a paper border to the left of it. I would like to make that as a border for every node on Conch theme on all 4 sides. So that It would look like medieval times.

The second thing I would like to change is if you look at my site you will see that there is a image heading for side menu, where it sais navigation and user login, I would like to make the same as a heading in all Conch navigation menus.

The third thing is the slide show, I love it, I wonder if it is possible to add buttons 1,2,3... for the number of slide shows, in case a user would like to stop and read one he could put the mouse of that number and the slide show would ever go there or stop at that slide.

I know I might be asking too much, but if you could suggest what I should do, how I should make the graphic look(i mean how should I crop it) and where should I change the Conch theme. That would be perfect.